Being the change
The Graeme Dingle Foundation improves the lives of our youth by not only equipping them with skills to build bright futures, but opening their eyes to the exciting possibilities around them. And it’s not just the children who are benefiting from the foundation’s programmes.
Accomplished adventurer, mountaineer, author, artist, filmmaker and philanthropist Sir Graeme Dingle knows how to squeeze the very most out of what life has to offer – and he sees it as his calling to equip New Zealand’s youth with the same limitless sense of possibility. More than 25 years ago, he pledged to improve our country’s concerning youth statistics, and so the Graeme Dingle Foundation was born. The vision is to positively impact the lives of our tamariki, and make Aotearoa the best place in the world
for children to flourish.
Today, Graeme and partner Lady Dingle, Jo-anne Wilkinson, are proud to see the foundation’s programmes reach 28,000 school-aged rangatahi across the country. The programme seeks to improve self-esteem, educate about positive choices and values for health and happiness, offer practical life skills and impart a sense of adventure. The ultimate goal is a positive attitude, useful skills and real future possibilities.
The couple are adventurers in the truest sense. Graeme has ascended the world’s most challenging mountains, sometimes with climbing buddy, the late Sir Edmund Hillary, and Jo-anne’s epic Arctic and Antarctic traverses and mountaineering achievements also attest to the couple’s grit and determination to succeed. It’s the same drive and courage that underpins the foundation’s objectives to make a real difference in the lives of our youth so they too can thrive and surmount any challenges life throws at them.
But creating an aspiring generation requires inspiring role models and this is where the foundation’s mentor program plays a crucial and highly-rewarding part in its success. Lynette and Dave Gillies of Z Energy have mentored five students between them. They were involved with the Graeme Dingle Foundation through Z Energy’s ‘Good in the Hood’ initiative, when the foundation’s Western Bay of Plenty manager Dan Allen-Gordon approached them about mentoring. Although experienced in business coaching and management, mentoring rangatahi was totally new to them. However, not only was the mentor training day extremely helpful in preparing them, they also found the foundation always available for support if needed.
So what does the role of mentor actually involve? The expectation is to meet up once every fortnight but to have contact once a week, with fun group activities for all the students and their mentors arranged periodically throughout the year. “The idea is to find things to do together that create space to talk,” says Dave. And although the experiences they have shared with their mentees is impressive – surfing, mountain biking, mud runs, baking and cooking at their home as well as work experience and community events within Z – Dave insists the most important thing is to simply lend an ear to the young people under their mentorship. “It’s important to listen to both what they say and what they don’t say” says Dave. Lynette agrees, “Listening skills are the biggest thing you need. Often you don’t need to talk, just to listen.”
Both Dave and Lynette speak enthusiastically about what they’ve gained from mentoring. “The opportunity to learn about yourself is huge,” says Dave. Lynette says young people have shown
her a different view of the world. “It really opened my eyes and reinforced that we must listen to young people more. They have so much to offer.”
What advice would they give to people considering mentoring? “Just do it!” says Dave. “An hour a week is not a big commitment to make a huge difference. When you see where these students end up after their mentoring period, it’s awesome.” Lynette says mentoring has improved her own personal growth, too. “You give, but you get so much back. The feeling you get when you see them go from where they were, to blossoming young adults, is just amazing.”
When Helen Fraser, the owner of Mount Maunganui store Bettie Monroe, heard about mentoring at the Dingle Foundation, she knew it was the right option for her. She wanted to volunteer in the community and had always loved being around children and teenagers. “Being a teenager is difficult,” says Helen. “The chance to help, to give opportunities and be a positive role model and inspire young people is amazing, I love it.”
Helen says the mentor matching process is a bit like speed dating – a really fun way for both students and mentors to work out who they connect with. Helen’s mentorship activities arranged by the foundation, included skydiving, paddle boarding, inspirational talks and once, an evening walk round the Mount with a DOC ranger where they witnessed the penguins returning. “There were a lot of opportunities for us both to experience new things and learn together.” Helen also enjoyed one-on-one time on days out, shopping trips and meeting for hot chocolates. A big part of mentoring is also goal setting,” says Helen. “Each student has a book and we set goals then revisit and evaluate them. They also learn lots of life skills like CV writing and interview practice.”
Helen enjoyed mentoring so much, she has gone on to do it twice more. Seeing students grow and being beside them as they overcome challenges and accomplish their goals is just amazing. And it isn’t difficult, it’s just about being a friend, a listening ear and a sounding board – and loving life and being up for a challenge!” Paris, who was the first young person Helen mentored, went on to be a mentor herself – testament to the positive impact mentoring, and the Project K (a 14-month program for year 10 students that incorporates a wilderness adventure and community challenge) had on her life.
Dan Allen-Gordon says, “Our mentors come from all walks of life, but the thing they have in common is
passion to make a real difference in the challenging world our rangatahi face. Every one of us that overcame major obstacles as a young person has had a significant adult help us succeed. It is the greatest gift we can give to care and not judge.”
The Graeme Dingle Foundation Western Bay of Plenty reaches over 3,700 tamariki and rangatahi each week with their proven programmes, building resilience and well-being in young people. From Kiwi Can, a values and life skills primary school programme to whole school peer-mentoring and ready for work programmes such as Stars, Career Navigator and Project K. The programmes cater to young people aged 5 to 18, helping the participants to thrive and understand what they have inside is greater than any obstacle they may face. A key part of some of these programmes is mentoring, and for both the students and mentors this represents an extremely rewarding, and life-changing experience.