Trust your gut
Centre For Health’s Anna Rolleston takes a deep dive into the fascinating microscopic world of inflammation and how it can influence both our mental and physical wellbeing.
Centre For Health’s Anna Rolleston takes a deep dive into the fascinating microscopic world of inflammation and how it can influence both our mental and physical wellbeing.
Photo Jahl Marshall
Understanding inflammation is incredibly important for health and wellbeing. Inflammation is a natural response that helps our bodies heal and fight off infections. When we cut our finger or catch a cold, inflammation kicks in and our immune system sends an army of cells to the affected area to promote healing. However, when inflammation is prolonged or spreads throughout the body, it can contribute to a range of health issues and disrupt the delicate balance that keeps us well.
First, let's talk about physical health. Chronic inflammation has been linked to numerous conditions like heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, and even cancer. It's like a low-grade fire that smoulders inside our bodies, leading to tissue damage and impairing the normal functioning of many organs. Inflammation is the beginning of almost all disease processes, so any actions to reduce inflammation will be beneficial for our overall health.
Inflammation plays a role in our mental and emotional health as well. Research has shown that chronic inflammation can disrupt the delicate balance of neurotransmitters in our brain, leading to symptoms of anxiety and depression. In fact, individuals with chronic inflammation are more likely to experience mood disorders.
It is our gut that plays a crucial role when it comes to inflammation and mental health. The gut and the brain are intimately connected through a complex communication network called the gut-brain axis. This bidirectional communication influences our mood, emotions, and cognitive function. Inflammation disrupts this connection.
The gut is home to trillions of microorganisms collectively known as the microbiome. This bustling community not only aids in digestion but also plays a crucial role in regulating our immune system. When inflammation occurs, it can upset the balance of the microbiome, leading to a condition called dysbiosis. Dysbiosis can further perpetuate inflammation, creating a vicious cycle.
That's where adopting plant-based foods can be a game-changer. Plant-based foods are packed with essential nutrients, fibre, and antioxidants that have anti-inflammatory properties. Fruits and vegetables, in particular, are nutritional powerhouses that contain a wide array of vitamins, minerals, and phytochemicals. These plant compounds have been shown to have anti-inflammatory effects, helping to calm the flames of inflammation within our bodies. Moreover, the fibre in plant-based foods acts as a prebiotic, providing nourishment to the beneficial bacteria in our gut, promoting a diverse and thriving microbiome.
A plant-based way of eating is generally lower in saturated fats and high in healthy fats, such as omega-3 fatty acids. Omega-3 fatty acids have been shown to have anti-inflammatory properties, further supporting our overall health. Adding fermented foods like sauerkraut, kimchi and yoghurt contributes to boosting the quantity and quality of the organisms in our gut, especially if consumed daily. By shifting our focus to plant-based meals, we not only reduce our intake of potentially inflammatory foods like processed meats and high-sugar snacks but also increase our consumption of foods that actively fight inflammation. That is most definitely a win-win situation!
Adopting a plant-based approach doesn't mean totally giving up all animal products. It's about making gradual changes and incorporating more plant foods into meals. Start by incorporating more colour into salads and stir-fries, making the vegetable component of your plate the largest part and trying plant-based proteins like beans, lentils, and tofu. It's a journey of exploring new flavours and discovering the incredible variety of plant-based foods available to us.
By nourishing our bodies with a plant-based diet, we can help tame inflammation, support our gut health, and boost our overall well-being. It's not just about what we eliminate from our plates but also about the vibrant, nourishing foods we add. Celebrate the power of plants and embrace a healthier, inflammation-free life!
Under pressure
A revolutionary sensory therapy is bringing clients a deep sense of wellbeing and inner peace.
A revolutionary sensory therapy is bringing clients a deep sense of wellbeing and inner peace.
Words Monique Balvert-O’Connor
Desiree De Spong loves how her working life is strongly focussed on offering people the chance to be wrapped up and supported, to feel warm, relaxed, calm and even healed.
All that is possible thanks to Desiree’s knowledge of the body’s lymphatic system and her associated desire to help facilitate life-changing results for a variety of people.
The Tauranga woman is a lymphatic specialist and developer and designer of Flowpresso®. Flowpresso, Desiree explains, is a sensory therapy system designed to reset the body’s physiology to support healing and general health.
The system is a result of Desiree’s desire to combine holistic therapy with scientific rigour, driven by a conviction that lymphatic therapy offers “a missing link in health”.
Essentially, Desiree tells, Flowpresso the product is a special bodysuit – one that comprises individual chambers that inflate in sequence and cover the legs, abdomen, arms and torso. It is non-invasive natural therapy, with reclining clients remaining clothed while enjoying a sensory treatment based on compression, thermodynamic heat and deep pressure (“pressure of a good kind”). Hence the feeling of being wrapped up, hugged and calmed.
Among those endorsing the suit is our constabulary. A research study, which involved 135 first responder candidates, showed the suit improved sleep by 92 percent, reduced stress by 63 percent and reduced anxiety by 55 percent. The WBOP Police became early adopters – that was two years ago – and remain users. Following their lead were other first responders, such as nurses and firefighters – people dealing with community stress and then their own. Referrals also come from counsellors, psychologists and others within the health field.
So, what’s the magic behind this suit? Flowpresso’s purpose is to release toxins, switch off the body’s fight-or-flight mechanisms, and encourage a rest and repair state, which is the optimum state required for a body’s healing process. Time in the suit once per week for three weeks is recommended.
For Desiree, Flowpresso is the realisation of her dream to create an evidence-based therapy that helps with mental health and sleep crisis.
It’s a field that’s a far cry from what she did in her “past life”: She worked in IT and finance for the NZ Fire Service.
“I made the change as I wanted to be involved in something that helped people. I became spellbound when I attended workshops in lymphatics. It was like a lightning bolt moment, as I saw lymphatics as the missing
link in health,” says Desiree, who went on to train in the USA and Australia.
She’s been a lymphatic specialist for two decades now, constantly building upon what she can offer. Flowpresso is a relatively new development, resulting from extensive worldwide study of existing technologies and their efficacy. This keen entrepreneur soon realised she would need to design an effective device and develop an initial prototype.
The first Flowpresso suit was manufactured only four years ago. Updates and refinements followed and the full Flowpresso system was launched in February 2020 with support from NZ Trade and Enterprise.
Close to 500,000 sessions per year are going on in the world now, Desiree tells. Exports are predominantly to the USA, Australia and the outskirts of Europe. In the USA alone, the suits are used in about 240 clinics and donned by those in law enforcement there too. Desiree has been hosted on a couple of occasions at the NZ Embassy in the USA to speak to those involved in defence, homeland security, law enforcement and firefighting.
Back home, Desiree and fellow wellbeing advocate Karen Gemmell, own Neuro Bar (with Tauranga, Te Puna and Matamata clinics) where Flowpresso therapy is available. Other clinics have purchased the suits, so Flowpresso is available in various locations nationwide.
Creating something pivotal in facilitating people to experience positive change in their lives is the best thing ever, Desiree says. "It's heart-touching and I’m elated. Users talk about how relaxed they feel after a session – some hadn’t necessarily realised how stressed they were. People say they’ve noticed improved sleep quality and energy, and a decreased stress response. Many feel they’ve been hugged all over.”
“Among other things, hugs release the feel-good hormone, but a lot of people don’t have access to hugs. And as the saying goes, we need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and 12 for growth,” Desiree smiles.
Pause, Breathe, Smile
This groundbreaking programme is making a real difference to our children’s emotional wellbeing, both in school and at home.
This groundbreaking programme is making a real difference to our children’s emotional wellbeing, both in school and at home.
Words Catherine Sylvester
It goes without saying that life can be both challenging and stretching at the best of times. Throw into the mix a global pandemic, its repercussions, and the odd cyclone, and nerves can get more than a little frayed. As adults, many of us have needed to dig deep and prioritise mental health over the past few years, drawing on all the tools at our disposal. Our tamariki (children) have also had to weather these proverbial – and at times, literal – storms right alongside us. Factor in the unique aspects of growing up in this digital age that seems so different to many of our childhoods, and the potential for anxious thoughts and behavioural concerns increases. Now, thanks to charity Pause, Breathe, Smile (PBS) children don’t have to navigate these feelings alone.
Launched in its current form in 2017 by Grant and Natasha Rix with support from the Mental Health Foundation, PBS brings mindfulness-based wellbeing programmes into schools, to support, nurture and empower children to live their best lives.
By engaging and equipping teachers with the ability to share a series of eight lessons incorporating skills such as mindful breathing, mindful movements and kindness practices with their classes, the programme aims to give tamariki the tools they can use to feel good and function well the majority of the time.
“Feeling good is about emotional wellbeing, or an ability to manage emotion,” explains Grant. “Functioning well is speaking to psychological wellbeing. Integrating certain positive attributes, and how children can relate to others, while having control over their own emotions is super important.” Grant acknowledges that to feel this way all the time is unrealistic, but wholeheartedly believes “it’s possible to live in a way where we experience positive mental health most of the time.”
The charity is seeing results that reinforce this vision. Darren Scott, deputy principal, and Year 5 whānau leader, Yvette Brown, from Tahatai Coast School, Pāpāmoa have noticed marked improvements since the programme’s implementation in 2021.
“Children are coming back from playtime more ‘present’,” Yvette says. “They’ve learned that it’s normal to have worries, but now they know how
to identify their concerns and have strategies they can use to deal with them.”
It’s not just within the classroom environment that positive results are being seen. “We’ve received a lot of feedback that what the children are learning in school is being brought into the home,” explains Darren. “These are skills for life!”
Pause, Breathe, Smile has now reached over 100,000 tamariki in 323 schools, thanks to funding from Southern Cross, who partnered with the charity in 2020. A survey undertaken by more than a thousand teachers enrolled in the programme produced many encouraging results. Positive classroom behaviour had increased while a decline in negative behaviour was observed. Twelve months on from the introduction of PBS, general student wellbeing was up 16.6%, and the number of students flourishing increased by 8.1%. In general, greater perseverance, less anxiety, and less worries were reported.
“For me, the research and evaluation has been hugely important,” says Grant. “I only want to be doing something that works and achieves the benefits we’re after.”
With PBS now being fully funded, expansion is on the cards. “Follow-up lessons for schools, and unique ways of working with new entrants are on the wish list,” Grant excitedly explains. “An app is also in the works.”
Committed to positively impacting tamariki across New Zealand, PBS has piloted a programme within full immersion kura (schools), with all resources available in te reo Māori. “We’ve worked with Māori teachers in these schools and had a Māori educator facilitating so that we can be certain that the work we’re doing is properly contextualised with a Te Ao Māori worldview,” Grant says. “It’s an ongoing process, but we’re at a place now where we’re able to train kaiako (teachers).”
Backed by solid funding, extensive research and enthusiastic educators,
the future is looking bright for PBS and the children it reaches. Take it from someone already positively impacted by the initiative, Tahatai Coast pupil, Poppy (8): “I feel way calmer, and it’s really good to just be able to slow down my thoughts and think about things for a while now.”
Seize the day
Are we so obsessed with plans, goals and looking forward to fun things that we forget the here and now? Fresh Coaching’s Anna Veale explains the shady side to living only for the future.
Are we so obsessed with plans, goals and looking forward to fun things that we forget the here and now? Fresh Coaching’s Anna Veale explains the shady side to living only for the future.
Photos | Salina Galvan
Idon’t know about you, but from October 1 I feel a shift in energy. Not just on my own, but on other people around me. Shops subtly put their Christmas products at our eyeline, the fake Christmas trees have been brought out of the attic and strategically placed in the corner of waiting rooms, memes of "11 Saturdays ‘til Christmas" start floating around social media and all of us have that one friend who has been counting down the days since last Christmas!
These signs prove to me that more than ever we are more focused on our future than where we are in the here and now. The danger of living this way is that before we know it, our life has passed us by and the future we spend months craving, is now so far in our rear-view mirror we can’t remember what it was we wanted in the first place.
While it’s great to plan our futures, have goals and dreams, it’s important to remember that right now is all we have got. It’s what we do right here, right now that is going to secure our future. (Did anyone else just start silently singing to Fatboy Slim, or was it just me?) When we truly understand this concept, then the pace of life can slow down. We can step back from the collective race towards "one day" and make choices that align with what matters most to us.
So how do we step off the treadmill which is increasing speed without nosediving into a third bowl of pavlova on Christmas Day and feeling utterly burned out?
TURN THE LIGHT ON
The first place to start is with awareness. Most of us find ourselves at a party we didn’t want to go to, over committing to people only to let them down at the last minute or wasting precious energy worrying about being in fifty places at once. From today onwards, turn the light on inside your mind and see what your automatic responses are to:
Requests that are made of you
Do you say yes without hesitation without considering the consequences? The time you spend on one thing is taking precious time away from other areas of your life that might matter more. Choose how and when you spend your time wisely.
Getting drawn into society's pace
Sometimes it’s not you, it’s others. Have enough awareness to know whose energy you’re picking up on. If everyone else around you is racing around trying to "get it all done" before the end of the year, have the courage to question if the stressful (endless) to-do list needs to be completed or are the expectations too high? Or that friend that you haven’t seen for most of the year and has invited you for a catch up before 2023 rolls around; perhaps you can put them off until January?
Stress
We all handle stress differently, but getting overwhelmed, having a short fuse, being distracted, and disengaging from things that would usually give you joy are all signs that you might be doing too much. Understanding your response to stress will give you the power to dial down on the basics – moving your body, eating food that fuels you and getting a decent night’s sleep. If you know you have some late, boozy nights coming up, counteract the possible negative consequences by having some healthy food choices and room for a walk the next day.
We know that the pace of life isn’t going to slow down so it's counterproductive to stress about how much you have to do. Choose today to take ownership of your busyness and make your mindset work for you.
Anna’s new book Only Human is available to order now: linktr.ee/freshcoachingnz
Float Fitness
Float’s owner and fitness fanatic Louise Kirkham loves introducing a new form of exercise to newbies.
Float’s owner and fitness fanatic Louise Kirkham loves introducing a new form of exercise to newbies.
Who is this type of fitness best suited to?
Float Fitness is for anyone looking for a body, mind and soul workout. Whether it’s been five minutes or five years since you last moved your body, there’s a place for you at Float.
What kind of classes do you run?
Our main technique that we offer is AntiGravity Fitness (AGF), an aerial fitness and yoga class in a hammock. AGF is a fusion of pilates, yoga and aerial arts. Some of our classes are restorative with breath work, while others get the heart rate up. We teach non-hammock classes too –UBOUND, which is trampolining to an upbeat soundtrack, Power Yoga (on a yoga mat) and we offer frequent one-off workshops and events such as Laughing Yoga, Floating Meditation, breathing workshops and our sell-out Silky Cocoon to name a few.
What is Float?
In addition to being a fitness studio, we are a community-focused collective of like-minded people coming together to share our journey of health and wellness. We have a retail space offering mindful living products for the active lifestyle as well as sustainable and local gifts for everyone.
Tell us about the benefits of Float?
Hanging upside down in a hammock releases a whole cocktail of happy hormones – endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin. If you had a really bad day and just want to let it go, there is nothing better than hanging upside down! We often see people rushing in, dropping their stuff and hanging upside down... They always leave elated.
What sets you apart?
Our vision is to provide a one-stop health hub with a luxury boutique studio environment, offering classes and experiences you won’t find down the road. We truly believe that we can improve your physical and mental wellbeing in just a few days. So much so, that we offer a 30-day money back guarantee. If you're not feeling, moving and looking better after your 30 days, we will give you your money back. We believe that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Can I do your classes if I haven’t exercised in ages?
Absolutely! We offer beginner classes and suggest taking two of these before progressing to general classes, but there is no limit so we encourage people to take as many of these as makes them comfortable, for those that need more time to settle in. The hammock offers so much support that the usual strength and flexibility required for yoga and pilates is not necessary here.
Are your classes safe for pregnant women?
Pregnant women definitely do attend our classes. We always remind everyone to listen to their own bodies.
What are you most proud of?
We love the space! The studio is really special and unexpected on the Mount main street. We love the surprise people get when walking into our space. Our studio is custom-built, fitted with 100-year-old wharf beams as the main feature. Our beams are often a real talking point. It’s really unique in itself, and then on top of that, we’re offering a really unique form of exercise that a lot of people haven’t tried before.
Bouncing back
We all deal with life’s curveballs in different ways, but surrendering to pain rather than enduring it will get you through even the toughest of times, says Fresh Coaching’s Anna Veale.
We all deal with life’s curveballs in different ways, but surrendering to pain rather than enduring it will get you through even the toughest of times, says Fresh Coaching’s Anna Veale.
Photo Salina Galvan
I recently returned from a long overdue trip back 'home' to the UK to visit my family and friends post Covid. One of the first things I noticed when I caught up with my friends is how tough the impact of Covid has been on mental wellbeing.
Whilst we all deal with stress differently, resilience is a skill that prepares people against the inevitable suffering that life throws at us.
One thing’s for sure, building resilience helps people adapt better to life’s curveballs, keeps self-esteem and confidence intact, allows people to handle setbacks without falling into a victim and blame mentality and promotes a growth mindset, looking at life with curiosity and compassion rather than fear and judgement.
Resilience isn't about 'sucking it up' or taking an 'it is what it is' attitude to the stressors of life, more a quality that empowers us to step back, take a bird’s eye view of a situation and compassionately process, accept and adapt to the challenges in front of us.
Resilience asks us to accept difficulty with courage, to work with it, not against it. So how can we build resilience and prepare for adversity?
Invite curiosity
By understanding your habitual thought patterns, you will become more equipped to step out of reactive behaviour when triggered by stress. You could start by asking yourself these questions:
How do I currently react to triggering situations?
What and who are my Achilles heels in terms of triggering a stress response?
How does my body respond to stress?
What tools do I already have to cope?
What habitual responses do I currently do which aren’t helpful?
Having curiosity about how you react to situations will enable you to learn and grow rather than beat yourself up.
Lean in
Suppressing emotions long term undermines our resilience so it’s important to get comfortable with noticing your emotions, recognising and labelling them. Do you push them down or do you go over and over the same scenario keeping you stuck in the same circumstance? Can you name the emotion you are feeling? What is the cause? How can you change the situation?
Practice courage
Knowing your values and living your life according to those values whilst challenging yourself daily to choose ‘hard over easy’ creates a compound effect when building resilience.
Challenge yourself
The body and mind are intrinsically linked so it is vital to check in daily with your body.
Ideas on how to challenge yourself physically (check with a physician before commencing any new regime.)
Daily breath work or mindfulness practice
Cold showers/cold water therapy
Physical exercise that pushes you out of your comfort zone
Like anything worth learning, developing resilience will take consistency, commitment and vulnerability. Meeting yourself where you are at and boldly working through challenges with an open mind will create an inner strength you didn’t know you had.
Entrepreneur and disability advocate Charmeyne Te-Nana Williams
Entrepreneur and disability advocate Charmeyne employs over 200 people to support people with disabilities, like her husband, Peter who suffered a brain injury in a boxing match. What Ever It Takes is a fitting name for her business, and the way Charmeyne approaches life.
Entrepreneur and disability advocate Charmeyne employs over 200 people to support people with disabilities, like her husband, Peter who suffered a brain injury in a boxing match. Whatever It Takes is a fitting name for her business, and the way Charmeyne approaches life. She lives between Mt Maunganui and Auckland.
PHOTOS Garth Badger WORDS Jenny Rudd
At a recent event for our speaker series, This Is How I Did It, Charmeyne told us the incredible story of how her husband Peter Williams’ brain injury and resulting tetraplegia has shaped her life.
Charmeyne and Peter had baby twin girls, who'd just arrived home from a 5-month hospital stay after their premature birth. And four weeks earlier, the couple had buried their son who passed away after being born at 26 weeks. Charmeyne was at home with their daughters in Auckland, on maternity leave for a job she loved at New Zealand Trade and Enterprise in the Māori enterprise team. Peter was down in Timaru at a boxing match, on his path to his plan to qualify for the Olympics. He'd previously won the world title for waka ama (canoe racing) in Tahiti. He was strong, athletic, and world class at the disciplines he put his mind to. He called Charmeyne and announced "I won, so I'm now the New Zealand Super Heavyweight Champion. I just need to go and do a drug test, then I'll call you back."
But he didn't call back. One of his teammates did. Charmeyne said it wasn't what he said that was worrying, it was what he couldn't say. He could barely get the words out. Peter had suffered a traumatic brain injury which left him a tetraplegic.
Her story was so inspiring, we knew we couldn’t leave it in the room.
I remember the day Peter went down to Timaru like it was yesterday. It was labour weekend in 2002. That morning, we'd talked about what we had dreamt the night before. We often did that. He said "I dreamt that my spirit had left my body and it was flying across Samoa.”
After I'd spoken to Peter when he won, I remember being so excited. I thought he hadn't rung back because he was out celebrating. Then his teammate called me and said "You need to get down here." At that point I had no idea what that meant. I didn’t know what I was walking into.
I’ve been so lucky and blessed, because my family has been amazing. My sister was staying with us at the time and she looked after our babies. I jumped on a plane and went down to Timaru.
Since that day, my life has really been in stages. Stage one was going down to Timaru.
STAGE ONE
The Rude Awakening
Some of the questions that came to mind at this time were: What the hell is a traumatic brain injury? I had no idea. I had never worried about Peter because he was so strong.
What the hell is this health system? I had no idea what I was walking into. I went into the hospital, he was in ICU and I just didn’t know what to expect. We weren’t allowed to stay there, so that was really daunting for me.
If it wasn’t enough that we were trying to deal with what was going on with Peter, it was all over the news. My brother rang me up and said, “Have you seen the newspaper?” On a front page was an article that said Peter was actually a Black Power member and had sustained his brain injury through an initiation. So he’s trying to fight for his life and here’s this article on the front page. Where did that even come from?
I rang a friend of mine whose husband was an All Black who’d had some bad publicity, and he put me onto his lawyer who represented us for nothing. We went to court to get them to retract what they'd printed.
By this time, I had to send my girls off, at eight months old, to live with their grandparents in Wellington so that I could work out how to help Peter. Thank god for my whānau, because if it wasn’t for them, I’d never have been able to get through these early stages.
STAGE TWO
The BS
I thought the system would focus on what's best for Peter, me and our whānau. But it didn't feel like that at all. You'd think you’d go from stage to stage – from hospital, to rehab, to home but, actually, it's not that way. Every time I went to another stage of what I thought was our recovery, it was just the same shit on a different day. All I knew was that I loved this man and wanted to keep my family together – that was my priority.
It wasn't just the medical system either, it was our society. Arriving in Auckland, a friend asked me if I was going to stay with Peter as a partner. I was shocked. They asked if I really knew what I was getting myself in for.
We left Timaru after a month and moved into ICU in Auckland for a month, then Peter moved to a rehab facility in West Auckland just before Christmas 2002. I thought that was going to be awesome, but it was really bad. The staff weren’t used to family members sticking around, but I was there every day. I became known as ‘the bitch’ – true story. In my mind I couldn’t understand why, because I was just trying to figure out how I could make sure that Peter was well looked after. What I started to realise was that everyone was doing what they thought was best, as opposed to what was best for me and my family.
Trying to find financial support to keep my family going was really difficult. When my maternity leave was over and I had to go back to work, I thought I’d go to Work & Income to get help with child support but was told I wasn't eligible because I was earning too much. I’m on $50k and I’ve got an adult who has a serious disability and two children. How is that a high income?
Then I was offered redundancy, which I took, because it meant I could go on benefit. I fought with my pride. I had never been on a benefit. But I knew that if I didn't, it was really going to affect my family's well being and my ability to care for them. I was exhausted and I needed to, so I did. And rather than pay me the extra $100 a week on top of my wages I could have been earning, they paid me about $70,000 a year to be on benefit and to support my kids. That seemed dumb!
You expect and trust that the experts are giving you the right advice, but I learned that that’s not the case. I found out some time later that Peter had been eligible for child support the whole time. We had to go to court to recoup it. What a waste of time and money for everyone involved.
STAGE THREE
Kete of knowledge
Finally, the penny dropped. When you’re in a rehab facility, you have a multidisciplinary team. You go to these whānau meetings and sometimes you might be the only member of the whānau with 12 clinicians around the table, who are all telling you what you should do. I was in one of these meetings and everyone was talking about how aggressive I was. I could feel myself shrinking into a corner in the chair, just fading away. My cousin was sitting next to me and she said, “You know, what some people would describe as aggressive, others would describe as proactive”. That was a turning point for me. I thought, that's right. I’m being proactive. I’m not being aggressive, I’m just fighting for what I know is right.
From then on, I started to listen, observe and figure out the things that Peter would respond well to in terms of his rehab. I thought about how I could take all these little bits of advice and information and fill up my kete of knowledge to move forward for Peter.
As well as learning from the model he was under, I looked around the world for different care models that fit what I believed he needed.
My aunty, who’s Māori and a social worker, said, “Have a look at this and tell me what you think.” It was a Māori model of care called Te Aho Takitoru which had been developed by her team as a social work kaupapa. What really jumped out to me was that the mana of the person being cared for was at the core. Reading it solidified in my mind what I have been trying to do since Peter's accident - I was fighting for the mana of this man. I just wanted him to be recognised as the man of the family, as a dad and as a partner. That’s all I was asking – nothing more and nothing less.
STAGE FOUR
Home is where the heart is
I thought going home was going to be easy – but it wasn’t. Having been in hospital and rehab for nearly three years, we’d applied to ACC to fund the modifications we needed for Peter to live at home. It was just before Christmas and I got a reply from ACC saying they’d declined our application. The application had taken forever, and they'd said no. I felt it was because they were solely looking at the injury and how to manage that injury. It was being done adequately, they felt, in the rehab centre. I could see though that there was so much more to the picture surrounding Peter's injury. What about his well-being, his wairua (spirit) and the mental health of my family as a result of the care decisions?
When ACC turned down our application, I thought if I don’t do something now, my family is just not going to survive this.
My brother-in-law worked for 60 Minutes and asked if they could do a story on us. I had turned down offers like this in the past, but I was desperate. So I said ok on the condition that Peter's integrity was maintained, and that the focus should be on getting Peter home.
At one stage during the research, I could see there was some focus on the fictitious Black Power connection. So I went marching up to the Black Power pad in Mt Wellington, knocked on the door and asked their leader to speak on 60 Minutes and set the record straight that Peter was not connected to them.
In the end, the show only talked about ACC for about a minute and how our application had been declined. It took three years for them to decline it, and honestly about two days to approve it.
Finally, we were going home. I got so excited. But we then headed into a new world. The world of agencies. In 18 months, we had around a hundred people come through my house. My girls were verbally abused, and Peter was physically and sexually abused. We went through another grueling court process to bring the sexual abuser to justice, but she got off on a technicality. That whole process was so traumatising for me. It was like I was the criminal. This woman wasn’t held accountable in any way, shape or form, and neither was the agency. That was it. No more. I had to take all my learnings and bring them together to provide a new model.
We weren't the only family going through this either. I knew there were others looking for the same as us, so I put together a business proposal to set up a programme bringing together everything I learnt from Te Aho Takitoru, my research and experience in hospital, at the rehab facility, and the agencies.
Ten years after Peter's accident, I set up What Ever It Takes, a home-based rehabilitation service.
STAGE FIVE
Doing Whatever It Takes
Our vision for our company was to set the standard internationally for how we care for families, regardless of their situation.
The biggest difference between a mainstream clinical approach and the Māori model we use, is we take into consideration all aspects of what’s going on in the whānau’s lives. A mainstream model looks at what's best for that injury in isolation. But that’s not reality for our families. We don't focus just on physical things like the brain or the spine. This person lives at home with a whole family, so we consider that whole picture. What help do they need to access their entitlements? What is the best wrap-around care that this particular family needs? How does the family operate? What are their dynamics? What are their values? What do they need to support them to live how they want to live?
We work mainly with Māori and Pacific Island whānau. They’re already compromised and they’re further compromised with this disability. I’m a supporter of whānau looking after whānau. I think if you want your whānau member to look after you, then let them look after you. There have been lots of debates about whether whānau members take advantage of the situation, but that’s really not my experience.
Our business model has allowed us to really flourish through the lockdown periods. We’re essential services, but we have a single team for each whānau we look after, so during lockdown we went right back to our aspirational goals and how we were going to do that within the confines of our four walls.
Each time my company gets audited, we receive continuous improvement on continuous improvement. That’s not just great, that’s exceptional in our sector. My goal is to create pathways for the future. I want us to be able to really pave the way for other organisations to come in and support families.
STAGE SIX
A deep breath
When my girls were at intermediate school, I realised that I had become so absorbed with what was going on for Peter that I was being counterproductive. That's when I started to think about my happiness. All they’d known their whole life was this environment of conflict where I'd been fighting for Peter. It was incredibly hard, but I moved out. It was the right thing for Peter to be able to work with his team from then on, and for our girls, and me.
My journey continues. It's been 18 years and time moves on. My father and my grandmother have passed away. My twins are leaving school.
I never thought that I’d meet somebody or fall in love, but I have. I’ve had feelings of guilt, but Peter and I were only young when this happened; he was 27. I’ve always committed to being married to Peter. But I got to a point where I thought, I don’t want to die wondering if there could have been more.
When we first met, Rob said to me, “I need to tell you something, I’m having a baby,” and I went, “Oh well, I’m married. I’ll have your baby if you have my husband.” And he goes, “Sweet.” So that’s been the basis of our family. We have five kids now with our big, beautiful, blended whānau. We have all this extended whānau on Rob’s side, and we have Peter and our extended whānau on my side, including Peter’s two sons Puna ma Faleasi and Siagogo.
It's unconventional, but it works because we make it work. I feel that’s probably my biggest learning: you just have to make things work.
No reira ngā mihi nui, ki a koutou. Mo te whakarongo mai ki ahau. Thank you for listening to me. Go home and tell the people that you love how much you love them. I’ve learnt how to care for my family and it's the pathway that I intend to to follow forever more.
What Ever It Takes
There's such determination in the name of Charmeyne Te Nana-Williams's business. And love, when you consider who the beneficiaries are of this determination. What Ever It Takes employs over 200 people across the North Island to deliver a programme of home-based care for people with severe and complex disabilities. What makes it different is the whanāu-centred approach. The family is involved in all aspects of the care, because Whatever It Takes looks at the needs of the whole family, rather than keeping the spotlight on just the injury.
This programme has been developed by Charmeyne and her team to give control, mana and quality of life to those suffering from and affected by major brain traumas and other life-changing disabilities. Their struggle to be allowed to take Peter home to care for him showed Charmeyne that there was a need for a different model of care.
The mind-body connection at Natural Fit
An exercise revolution is afoot at this Mount gym. We spoke to co-owner Beth Ratcliffe about their purpose.
An exercise revolution is afoot at this Mount gym. We spoke to co-owner Beth Ratcliffe about their purpose.
UNO: What’s Natural Fit great at?
BETH RATCLIFFE: Our ‘what’ is grounded in purpose. We’re good at understanding what our members need because we aim to listen more than we speak to gain a deep appreciation for where they’re at. This begins by getting to know them and allows us to offer well-coached classes and personalised programmes, and to create a relaxed community that cares about connection, support and expertise in sport and health performance, exercise rehabilitation, dynamic functional movement techniques and the very best yoga offerings.
Why do people come to you? We feel the entire fitness industry needs a shake-up. People are walking through the doors of Natural Fit because we’re a signal in an industry full of noise. We teach people to move and function with self-awareness and control, and to build on their strengths. We’re proud of the beautiful environment we’ve created in the heart of the Mount, but we’re so much more than a room full of exercise equipment. We know that change comes from within, and that it’s not so much what you do but how you do it that counts. At Natural Fit, success isn’t measured in body scans or on the scales. Igniting healthy habits; moving with true purpose; feeling in control; celebrating strength, endurance and flexibility outside of the gym; and gaining confidence is how we notice and name success.
Who are you best suited to? We have a diverse range of members, from people who’ve learned to stand again following disease or injury, right through to competitive athletes. People in our community have begun to notice that we’re different. An entire community is choosing to learn and relearn how to move with purpose and trust their intuition. Fitness doesn’t always need to occur at a million miles an hour. In order to meet goals and make an impact, it needs to be purposeful and be a constant practice of self-reflection. By facilitating people to make a brain and body connection every time they choose a class, or to put in the hard work of following their goal-oriented programme, they’re forming healthy habits that can be applied outside of our supportive gym environment. Currently, the intended vibe within Natural Fit is a mirror for the diversities that exist in our community. We proudly have all members “come as they are” and help them articulate the goals that will affect their wellbeing.
What are you proud of at your gym? It’s the meaningful connections we have with our members and that they have among themselves that we’re most proud of at Natural Fit. Our membership is diverse and although each individual has unique goals, the culture that exists within Natural Fit means that we all work together and inspire each other.
What kind of classes do you run? Cardio, strength, mobility, agility… What makes our classes unique is less about what we do and more about how we do it. We teach people to move well, listen to their brain and body, and challenge their individual limits.
Who is this type of fitness best suited to? We welcome people that are willing to challenge the status quo and noise that exists within the industry. Our membership is full of people who understand that in order to take control over their health, they must be accountable to themselves and make inherent changes, rather than rely on the variety of bells and whistles that promise a shortcut to success.
What are your top tips for getting beach-ready? If you’re confident in your own skin, then you’re beach-ready. This is a function of being ‘strong’ mentally, emotionally and physically. Learning to move with self-awareness and control helps instill this sense of confidence, which sets you up to enjoy feeling good in any situation.
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